I've noticed that we Australian's have a really hard time taking a compliment. So I wanted to write a quick instruction on what to do when someone pays you a compliment. It's really simple: Just say thank you. If it feels uncomfortable to hear, don't look at the ground and tell them that they're wrong about you. Just pause, let yourself accept it and say thank you. Because we don't take compliments very well and we all know it, it …
Welcome to Heartmen
The world told you that to be a man you had to be a certain way...
Being a Heartman is about being willing to be different.
Being willing to be kind, intentional, vulnerable, huggable, lovable and open-hearted.
If this resonates with you, then read on.
Who You Are
You are a man. Maybe. You could also be a woman. That’s not what is important, what is important is our experiences so far.
You grew up with many influences leading you to believe that men should not be vulnerable. Phrases like ‘boys don’t cry’, ‘harden up’ and ‘don’t be a girl’ were commonly heard.
You watched your Dad’s life revolve around his work. Maybe he played games with you a lot when you were small, but as you got older the relationship became more formal. Still loving but it lacked that intimacy of a Dad and his young child.
You knew that one day your role would be to support your family. To be the rock. To give stability. Maybe you swore to be different, but now married, with kids and bills, those choices seem out of reach.
You began to believe emotions were not a good thing. Rationality was. So you shut out a lot of ways to be vulnerable. We build mental and physical walls and shields to protect ourselves and our family. You forgot how to even be vulnerable.
And maybe that’s why you are here. It’s why I am.
I Love You Man
I have a podcast called I Love You Man.
On it I have insightful conversations with other men, average guys and well-known, about how we try to live a life of meaning and vulnerability and how sometimes we don't achieve either.
They are conversations to help start a bigger conversation about removing stereotypes around how a man should live his life.
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Listen and subscribe on iTunes. I'm excited to share with you today's episode. Not just because it's the first episode I've posted this year, but also because it features my dear friend Greg Faxon. Greg and I first met at a summer camp for adults in upstate New York. We actually didn't talk much that weekend (listen to the podcast to hear why) but there was something about him that made him stand out from the other 250 attendees …