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In this episode I talk to my friend Rick Clemens who is a gay men’s Life Coach. Rick has been a tremendous support on the Heartmen project. We’re both a bit fed up with seeing a lot of men’s stuff out there just targeted at heterosexual men. The truth is that gay men go through a lot of the same stuff straight men do. These are men’s problems.
In our conversation Rick shares with us some awesome tools for dealing with some of the default thought processes men go through.
Rick’s website: Rick Clemons
Rock’s podcast: The Coming Out Lounge
Rick’s new project: Point One Project
Here are my notes from my chat with Rick:
- The Fixer: Why do we as men always feel the need to have all the answers? And if we don’t, create one ourselves? Rick and I talk about how this causes us pain and wastes a chance to connect with others (to ask for help).
- Rick’s story: After coming out briefly in his youth, Rick dove back into the closet and spent 38 years trying to be straight again. He shares with us how coming out can be such a powerful moment and it’s not just for coming out as gay either. You ‘come out’ when you really start embracing your you-ness.
- Being comfortable in discomfort: Are you comfortable with being in discomfort? We talk about how we end up in this weird place of taking refuge in our discomfort. Not the discomfort of growth though, the discomfort of apathy.
- Escape exercise: Rick gets us to close our eyes as he takes us through a powerful but quick exercise for helping with those moments when we fall back on comfortable habits or find ourselves procrastinating.
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