Since starting this project, every week I get sent at least one article from a friend about men’s depression and suicide rates.
Men are struggling and we don’t know how to talk about it. We are struggling because we feel trapped by the choices that we’ve made in our lives and the choices we feel like we have to make.
In this episode I talk to Evan La Ruffa. A man who has created a life of doing things that matter to him. He is a soccer player turned non-profit founder (I Paint My Mind) and I’m really excited to share our conversation with you talking about making choices and ‘curating’ our lives.
Wait until the end to hear him talk about how he feels about his Dad. It’s beautiful and moving.
“We are all curators. Curating really has to do with creating a context in which an experience can happen.” Tweet This
These are the notes I took listening back to the show.
- Orange string and nails: We created this at Camp GLP.
- Negative thoughts: Evan talks about taking control of the negative thoughts before they start snowballing into something bigger.
- When meeting new people: “Looking at how I relate with people as opposed to how I’m different from someone.” Tweet This
“Is the purpose of what I’m saying about connection or differentiation?” Tweet This
- Curating our lives: Evan and I riff on how we actually have a lot of control over our lives. We don’t have to live conforming to typical masculine roles. We also don’t have to give up things like enjoying sport in order to be more open and vulnerable. It’s a choice.
“This is life for fucks sake, we can change things.” Tweet This